Several of my beautiful, nearest and dearest best friends who have young children are struggling to find balance in their lives. Correction – they are struggling to honour their own soul’s desires and this is throwing them out of balance. They have the mindset that our child’s needs always out way our own; and that to be a good mother, you need to stay home and parent your child the way generations have before. Putting your life on hold and devoting yourself to your child.
I’m here to blow this thinking out of the water and to remind you, that YOU matter and most importantly your happiness MATTERS.
Being a great mother (or father) doesn’t mean giving up your hopes and dreams. It doesn’t mean putting your passions, hobbies and life on hold.
It doesn’t mean that you are any less of a parent when you choose YOU. It doesn’t mean that you love your child any less when you choose YOU. What it means is that you honour and love yourself enough to still give to YOU, and when you give to YOU, YOU will always have more to give to your child and others.
Whenever you go on an airplane you are remind that in case of an emergency you must always put your own oxygen mask on before your child’s. This goes with conscious parenting as well. In order to fill your child’s love cup you need to have a fill love cup yourself. Honouring YOU, and ensuring your own cup is fill will allow you to have even more love to give to your children and loved ones.
Conscious children need conscious parents. So honour that part in you which seeks joy, satisfaction and happiness. There is no sacrifice to be made here. This is a story that we have been told and the universe will always support us when we are in flow. When you acknowledge what it is YOU need to do for YOU in order to be more fulfilled, the universe will always make it happen. When you decide to honour YOU, watch how the universe supports you, and watch how your relationship with your children and family grows.
Putting your needs on the table will ensure your living your life as joylessly as possible. It will mean you have more love to give, as your cup will be filler than ever before. You will also be showing your child that in life, sacrifices never need to be made; we can have it all…. And that it’s always up to us!
So to restore the balance in your life, to reclaim your joy, while knowing that YOU are still an amazing and loving parent, start choosing YOU. Stop with the stories, stop worrying what others may think or how you may be judged; and stop stressing about how honouring you will make you any less of a parent, because it doesn’t.
YOU are amazing and YOU are doing an amazing job. It will get easier and you will feel better. Just remember that YOU matter and how YOU feel matters.
Now what do you need to do for YOU to create more joy in your life today?
Amy Shayanna xx